Charisma is the ability to attract charm and influence people around you. Some people are naturally gifted with high charisma that allows people to hang onto every word they are speaking. However, charisma is not only attainable at birth. Appeal can be developed and honed, just like any other skill. Another way to look at this is through the adage “Fake it till you make it.” This is especially true while developing charisma as faking confidence well can give the impression of a charismatic individual. Repeated interactions in such a manner with a host of people can help make one more charismatic effortlessly.
People are Charismatic in different ways, and what works for some doesn’t always work for everyone. Examples of two wildly different charismatic people are Elon Musk and Barrack Obama. Barrack Obama is a charismatic leader who can influence the whole room just by being there. His Sharp Attire and eloquence are the primary contributor to his Charisma. He is at home in the spotlight and is the perfect case of an extroverted charismatic individual. Elon Musk, on the other hand, is an introverted individual who is passionate and focused. He has developed his Charismatic presence by utilising his intense focus and profoundly influencing a small number of people. Quality over quantity seems to be his objective.
A hallmark of a charismatic individual is that after conversing with them, the other person feels better and more confident in themselves, which makes them keep coming back to continue their conversation.
Adopting the following mannerisms allows people to develop their charismatic presence –
Dress to Impress
It has been well researched that clothing often impacts the charisma of the wearer. Putting on casual clothes and looking in the mirror and comparing oneself while wearing a well fitted professional attire can show the difference between confidence levels that these clothes grant. Wearing professional attire makes one stand up straighter and look more confident.
Be aware of the conversation
While in a conversation, it is imperative to block out all distractions and focus on the conversation. Showing that you are listening along with keeping eye contact will allow one to appear more charismatic and become more charismatic.
Ask for clarification
While in a conversation, it is imperative to block out all distractions and focus on the conversation. Showing that you are listening along with keeping eye contact will allow one to appear more charismatic.
Give a pause before responding
It is vital if often overlooked way of developing charisma. Thinking of a response while the other person is still talking is not the right way to proceed as it indicates that one is not listening to the conversation in the first place. This is counterproductive and goes against a previous couple of tips. When responding, one should give a couple of seconds of pause to collect one’s thoughts and continue the conversation. It makes others believe that you were listening while helping to maintain the conversation and keep the other party interested.
In the end, the key to becoming a more charismatic individual may be to make others feel charismatic while conversing with you.